Thursday, November 29, 2007

Loss

I'm feeling sad today. I just heard that a friend of mine in the Junior League is having to end her five-month pregnancy next week. The baby has rare chromosomal abnormalities that mean it probably won't survive the pregnancy. I am absolutely heartbroken for her. She has been so supportive of me and helpful with lots of advice.

I have been criticized for not acting more "excited" about my own pregnancy. I am excited! But I guess part of me is scared too. I just know that there are so many things that can go wrong. I think I'm just trying to protect myself. Every week is a new milestone and I feel a little more confident that things are going to be okay. But then I hear about my friend...

I wish I knew what to say or do to help my friend. I will send flowers today and hope that it will mean something to know that I am thinking about her and her family.

*UPDATE* I just heard that my dear friend Amy's father died. Don't these things come in threes?

3 comments:

Genevieve said...

I'm sorry about your friend. That is really sad.

And I can't believe people would criticize you! You feel how you feel. Just because you're not showing their necessary levels of excitment doesn't mean you're not excited. sheesh.

Gary said...

Losing a baby must be one of the most intimate kinds of loss a human being can experience. I am so sorry to hear about your friend.

Grief is such a hard thing to go through. You're a sensitive, caring person and she undoubtedly knows that already. Just showing that you are thinking about her will help her a great deal.

And I'm with Genevieve in regards to showing feelings. How obnoxious.

Literary Feline said...

I am so sorry for both of your friends, Amy.